The phrase “Don’t worry be happy” just have been expounded.
Happiness is officially defined as a state of well-being brought about
by enjoying, showing, or marked by contentment, pleasure, satisfaction
or joy. There are some keys that will help us get to a state of feeling
happiness and it really isn’t rocket science.
1. Be here, now – Living in the present is the only minute that we can control. The past is gone and the future isn’t here yet.
2. Remain aware – While living in the moment, be aware of everything that is making that moment possible.
3. Gratitude – Appreciation for everything big and small is a vital key to happiness.
4. Accept that it isn’t easy – We are all different,
but there is for sure one thing that is the same; life is often
difficult and filled with adversity. If we accept this truth, the
painful times are a little easier to bear.
5. Let your body lead you – Our physical body will let
us know what it needs, (rest, sleep, fun, food, water, shelter, warmth)
so listen and accommodate it.
6. Be comfortable in your skin – You have beauty of the body and the soul. If you don’t believe it, ask someone that loves you and they will agree with me.
7. Let go of fear – Happiness is strangled and
suffocated by fear. Face your fears, see them as they really are (the
product of memory, which dwells in the past) and overcome them. You
can’t improve the past with actions in the present. Accept it and move
on fearlessly into the future.
8. Become resilient – You know yourself best, so learn
techniques that will guide you to bouncing back resiliently during and
after difficult experiences.
9. Friendly relationships – We are all social beings and cultivating strong relationships reinforces our positive self-image.
10. You are smart enough – People with the highest IQ’s
are not capable of any more happiness than those with the lowest IQ’s.
Why? Often, people who are smarter also have higher expectations of
themselves and life which keeps their state of happiness equal to
everyone else’s level.
11. Accept change – Sure! Just hand me all your dimes,
nickles and quarters. What? Oh, not that kind of change? Alright, change
is not easy to accept, but I am trying to do it with a semblance of
grace. Change happens every day to every one, so the sooner you can find
peace with the whole concept of change, the more happiness you will
find in your life.
12. Peace, be still – Meditating and remaining in touch
with our inner dialogue is a vital key to finding, being and remaining
in a state of happiness.
13. Enjoy the journey – Nurturing and attaining goals is great, but as I always say, “Stop and smell the roses” or in other words, enjoy the journey.
14. You’re all you need – Other people can influence
your happiness in a positive or negative way, but they are not needed in
order for you to have happiness in your life. Love yourself.
15. Manage stress – If you don’t manage stress, it will
manage you and take your straight to an early grave. Stress causes so
many problems in the body that it literally will kill you. I don’t know a
better reason to learn to manage your stress than that, so having
control of this part of life is definitely a key to having happiness.
16. Let it be – Over analyzing every little aspect of
life, our thoughts and feelings is unnecessary. Take the time to just
enjoy, observe and give up trying to figure everything out. Women could
take a lesson from men with this key to happiness.
17. Marriage – Although marriage is not all white lace
and roses, it is still a scientifically proven fact that people who are
married, live longer and are happier. Just for clarification, cohabiting
does not have the same positive effect as marriage. Obviously, the
piece of paper and gold band have a magical happiness power that some
speculate as a great proof of commitment and love.
18. Approval by one – Relinquish your need for external
approval because the only opinion that really counts is your own. Have
an unconditional self-acceptance and self-love.
19. To thine own self be true – Learn who you are and what makes you tick. Become empowered with a clarity of your authentic self.
20. Focus – Older people have it all going on and can
teach us all a very valuable lesson about an important key to happiness.
As we age, it seems natural to focus on the things that make us happy
and ignore or banish all the things that negatively impact our
happiness. Think about it, when you’re 95 years old, every experience is
a little richer because it could be the last time you get to live it.
21. Be satisfied – Keeping up with the neighbors does
not bring happiness. If you want what you have, you’ll have what you
want along with the happiness associated with the feeling of being
satisfied.
22. More is not necessarily better – Studies have shown
that once your basic needs are met, money only seems to add to your
happiness if you already feel happy. It doesn’t bring you permanent
happiness.
23. Faith – Whether you believe in God, a Higher Power
or something else, exhibiting faith in something greater than our self
creates security and gives us a purpose in life. Feeling an ultimate
direction for our existence leads to happiness.
24. You’re not alone – In case you didn’t know it,
there are billions of other human beings inhabiting the planet. We are
all connected in many ways, so no matter what you’re going through,
someone else is going through the same thing. Remember the movie “Cast
Away” with Tom Hanks? As he carried on conversations with the volleyball
named Wilson, I was very aware of how important it is that we are all
in this experience of life together.
25. Let go of anger – Anger stifles forgiveness and the
unforgiving spirit finds happiness to be elusive. Face the circumstance
with a greater understanding and anger will subside as you learn to
cope. A key point to remember is that just because you forgive, it
doesn’t mean that what happened wasn’t wrong. It just means that you
aren’t going to let that emotion or the circumstance control you or your
future.
26. Listen – Communication is such a major key to
having solid relationships. When I had my manly communication epiphany, I
started to watch how men and women relate with each other on a daily
basis. It is totally fascinating! In our conversations with both
genders, it is important to truly listen and to ensure the atmosphere is
conducive to great communication.
27. Don’t sleep with dogs – Growing up I remember my
mother saying, “If you sleep with dogs, you’ll wake up with fleas.”
Well, I eventually understood the message. If you are surrounded by
negative people filled with hate, their attitude will greatly influence
you. The inner you is reflected by what you do, where you go and who you
choose to spend time with on a daily basis. If you wake up with fleas,
happiness is usually very far away.
28. Give unselfishly – An unselfish heart and
charitable spirit, gives much, but receives more. Happiness can always
be found in giving unselfishly of our money, time and talents. Be
generous with yourself…often.
29. Strengths, not weaknesses – No one is perfect.
Don’t expect perfection of others or yourself and I guarantee that
happiness will be much easier. It is great to want to improve, but
understand that you won’t ever be able to fix everything.
30. Smile – It is said often, but that doesn’t diminish the importance of putting a smile on your face every day.Happiness smiles.
31. You’re the boss – You are in control of all your actions, so don’t set yourself up with predestined unhappiness.
32. Judge not – Not only shouldn’t you judge others,
but don’t judge yourself. Happiness gets bogged down when consumed with a
judgmental mindset.
33. Give up the bad stuff – If this comes across as
bossy or preachy, I’m sorry, but give up the toxic things that are bad
for your body and soul. You know the normal things like drugs,
cigarettes and alcohol, but even things like tanning, over eating and
abusive relationships are things that can drag every bit of happiness
into the toilet.
34. Courage – I know that it is not easy to be
courageous in the face of tribulation and fear. Courage, however, is one
of the most important keys to obtaining happiness.
35. Persevere – People who give up don’t succeed. People who keep going, not only succeed, but they are also much happier.
36. All or nothing – Be in your life, activities and relationships, all the way, one hundred and fifty percent.
37. Be like a cow – Have you ever watched how a cow
roams around the pasture totally content with eating grass, mooing and
relaxing? Be content with yourself. After all, you are an original.
SOURCE: THERYANSTEVENS
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